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On selecting your focus – by Abha Malpani Naismith

In case you are something like me, you’ve an enormous listing of stuff you’d love to do. Targets, aspirations, desires, tasks, hobbies.

And as you become older and extra conscious that you’ve restricted time to do all the pieces, the listing grows.

Right here is my present listing, divided by class:


  • Begin my very own enterprise

  • Be an expert author

  • Create passive revenue streams

  • Discover distant, work from anyplace alternatives

  • Begin a Youtube channel

  • Do a course in Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)

  • Improve my technical expertise (website positioning, net design, video modifying, web3, AI, no-code)

  • Yoga Trainer Coaching (300 hours!)


Be a proactive mum:

  • Be a gift dad or mum

  • Facilitate my children to be taught as a lot as potential: faucet dancing, horse using, ballet, swimming, jujitsu, gymnastics, capoeira, soccer, artwork

  • Learn and draw with my children

  • Learn books on being a greater dad or mum

Well being:


  • Go tenting with my household

  • Get again into stand-up paddle and wake-boarding

  • Begin enjoying tennis once more

  • Be taught silk (I nonetheless haven’t let go of my need to be an aerial artist lol)

  • Run a half marathon

  • Return to dancing salsa, tango and modern

  • Journey Asia, Africa and South America

They are saying that as you become older, your need to do issues wanes. Not fairly true for me. Do you are feeling the identical?

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Clearly, I can’t do all the pieces. Our time is restricted, the mum fatigue is actual, and trying to do all the pieces means overwhelm and never doing something correctly.

However how do I select?

“The distinction between profitable individuals and actually profitable individuals is that basically profitable individuals say no to nearly all the pieces.” – Warren Buffett

There’s a methodology (yaay!). It’s Warren Buffett’s 25/5 methodology. It’s actually well-known, though fictitious. However nonetheless a way to work with!

In a nutshell that is it:

  • Step 1. Record your high 25 (or extra!) life targets, skilled targets or aspirations – your bucket listing mainly. All the things you need to your life that’s vital for you.

  • Step 2. Circle the 5 most vital targets which can be the closest to your soul. These are your highest priorities to give attention to.

  • Step 3. Cross off the opposite 20 targets you’ve listed and put them away in a “avoid-at-all-costs” listing. Sure, “avoid-at-all-costs” listing. I wager you’ve by no means made a type of earlier than!

Placing apart targets vital to you may give you FOMO. Our temper performs a task too. How are we meant to disregard our ‘avoid-at-all-costs’ listing when our temper gravitates in direction of one thing on that listing?

I suppose we’ve to decide on our high 5 targets fastidiously. Then take the choice to give attention to solely these and absolutely decide to them. And begin taking pleasure in the truth that we are literally on monitor to attain a few of our most vital targets.

Level to ponder: The ‘be a proactive mum’ listing is a non-negotiable for me; and that already has 4 issues on it. Does this imply I must compromise on this listing?

I’m undecided. This train is less complicated stated than completed.

My most vital takeaway from this methodology is that the 25/5 train is instructing us to select to say no to all the pieces that doesn’t transfer us in direction of attaining what’s vital to us. It compels us to remove and decrease distractions in order that we will really obtain one thing, fairly than attempt to obtain one thing.

“Folks assume focus means saying sure to the stuff you’ve acquired to give attention to. However that’s not what it means in any respect. It means saying no to the hundred different good concepts that there are. It’s a must to decide fastidiously.” – Steve Jobs

I actually have no idea how to do that relating to all of the issues I wish to be taught and obtain. Consequently, I find yourself having an entire bunch of half-baked tasks occurring always.

I actually need this to vary, for which I would like a system. I’m going to belief this 25/5 train, and begin with it.

I’ll say although that I’ve turn into excellent at saying no to social invites, with no FOMO and full JOMO 🙂 Consequently, I solely spend time with a handful of individuals near me who enrich my life. So a lot better for my time, thoughts and soul.

I can’t consider we’re nearly in Might. I would like to maneuver quick on my finalizing my focus listing so I can transfer the needle on a few of targets by the tip of the 12 months.

What are you going to give attention to for the remainder of the 12 months? Inform me within the feedback or hit reply! I’d like to know.

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Abha x

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